4 Key Points about Setting Healthy Boundaries
One of the most challenging topics I hear my one on one clients and the participants in my detox from judgment program raise is about setting healthy boundaries.
In my own life, I myself have struggled a great deal to overcome and heal my own people pleasing tendencies and learn how to set and maintain healthy boundaries in different aspects of my life. This self work is a continuous process as things in our life keep evolving and unfolding in different ways and therefore we are bound to be confronted with new situations as well as old patterns popping up again often times in new clothing to test us. As the self-work continues, we can commit to releasing and healing our need to please others at our own expense, compromising our wellbeing to keep others happy, abandoning ourself as a result of our fear of conflict, and feeling drained-guilty-anxious-resentful.
I want to highlight 4 points about what setting a healthy boundary is and is not:
Once we understand what healthy boundaries are really about, then we need strategies to identify the problem and take action on it.
I will give some tips about that in a future post. Meanwhile do share in the comments your own thoughts about setting boundaries.